Finding the Right Mate
Written By Robert on February 26th, 2010
How do you catch the RIGHT one? Simple: You take only the bus that’s headed in the RIGHT DIRECTION. First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it’s made on an emotional one. “What about love? Shouldn’t that be the third?”, you ask. No, and I’ll tell you why. “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jer 17:9). The heart is wilful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently – it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right directions: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23). Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage. Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage. Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together. Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively -it is the decisive turning toward the agreed- upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage. But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather facts
Researched by Kevin Pierre
Hi, your statement says: “Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.” My Question: Working on the premise that God is the One who does, and should do the choosing of a companion for the believer, why then should you “check out the person’s attributes” if you are convinced that you “got clearance from God? Isn’t it a contradiction of terms? Would God give you “clearance” to go forward if God has not already determined that this is the one? God bless.
I understand clearly what you are saying, yes as long as God does the picking for us, we do not have to worry, but remember we as God’s people have to keep in close connection with Him and renew our relationship with Him (GOD)daily. We also have to put Him first in our relationship. (pray together, worship together, study together, and leave sex for after marriage). If that does not happens, then we are in for a rude awakening. Attitudes would change and problems would arise. I’ve always leant that whateva we put infront of God, He will take it away from us…. so, we need to always put God first, even in our RELATIONSHIPS. God Bless!
but these days the young ladies don’t want friends first they want thirst
thirst meaning they don’t want to wait or get to know you. I believe that if or whe you meet that special person you should really take time to get to knoow them. basically what you said.
thirst wanting to know you as how Adam knew Eve. Basically what was said in the article I totally I agree. that young people or couples shold take time to know each other. for me if I can not meet you mentally, not saying that I don’t enjoy God’s creation but that not all to a relationship.
what is thirst? may I ask.
Kevin I totally agree with the guidelines that you stated above and as a youth leader, I pray that the youth today would follow these guidelines. Up to today, I was having a discussion with a friend on some E. G. White guidelines on courtship. I think prayer is extremely important, especially when dating. I love how you put it, God must do the picking! I’ve seen the outcome of many relationship decisions made without God’s approval and the outcome – huh… disastrous!
So should I trust a woman since I wout b able to read her heart
Excellent guidance!