Finding the Right Mate
Written By Robert on February 26th, 2010
How do you catch the RIGHT one? Simple: You take only the bus that’s headed in the RIGHT DIRECTION. First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it’s made on an emotional one. “What about love? Shouldn’t that be the third?”, you ask. No, and I’ll tell you why. “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jer 17:9). The heart is wilful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently – it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right directions: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23). Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage. Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage. Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together. Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively -it is the decisive turning toward the agreed- upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage. But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather facts
Researched by Kevin Pierre
You know we have to remember that the characteristics that we favour in a potential mate are not what God favours. The media and the society at large have really brainwashed us into thinking that all that matters in forming a relationship with someone is all external and everything else will fall into place later on. But having that deep connection or relationship with God really guides us into looking at the person’s heart. The ironic thing is when we ask God to send “that one” we turn them away because deep down we want what society has to offer and not what God wants for us. We have to trust our heavenly father and His will for our lives that even if the person isn’t that wealthy or very attractive, we trust God that he/she has a relationship with Him and is able to support and motivate you into strengthening yours with the Father. Your relationship should be one that is devoted to God in prayer. If you believe that individuals mask their true self, ask God to remove your blinders. Let us all get to the point where we put our trust fully in our heavenly father that He may guide our path to eternal life mate or no mate.
I agree with Mecca’s comment. Many of us try to twist God’s hands and after making our decision ask God to make this person the right one. If we honestly prayer for guidance God usually answers our prayers and shows us things that are in the dark. We truely need to avoid the deception of this world in the choice of our mate and make not just a good-choice but a God-choice. A good choice will work some of the times but a God choice will work all the time and most importantly is a relationship for eternity.